Is your Mind your Master? or Are You the Master of your Mind?

Why am I asking the question about who is the Master; You or your Mind?

Because it is important. Our brain is absolutely amazing at learning, think of all the patterns laid down in a lifetime, all those things that  can just be done automatically now, without consciously paying attention. Dressing, eating, washing,  walking, running,  riding a bike, balancing, swimming, changing gear in a car, speaking, reading, understanding language, knitting, sewing, playing an instrument, writing, etc. This is incredibly efficient and it is why the brain learns patterns, because to learn means you need to pay conscious attention and that takes energy, glucose. The brain uses  about 20% of the body’s energy supply, so the more it can do without constantly paying attention the better 🙂

Beliefs and the Child Brain

So what? Well, as per the slide above, there are a lot of things the brain learns as  a child, shoulds, musts, have tos, ought tos, for example that may, or may not, be helpful in later adult life. We learn beliefs about ourselves, for example “I’m not good enough! Be Perfect, Please everybody.” Of course if you hold a belief (A lens through which you perceive reality) you will always  have evidence to back it up, because I am right in this belief  and ‘look, see the evidence’ about me being not good enough! Hence low self esteem is perpetuated until!

Until what? Until you wake up and begin to think about this belief, to observe it. See it for what it really is:-

  • Something you learned
  • Taught to you by others
  • Useful at the time of learning, because it kept you safe

By doing this you begin the journey to becoming the master of your mind

“The unexamined life is not worth living” (Plato – Socrates)

At this point, just begin to notice the beliefs. I will cover how to begin a process of change in a later post called “Feel the Fear and do it anyway

  • What beliefs (lenses) have you formed about yourself? (Write them down) Look at them and really think about:-
  • When you learned them?
  • Where you learned them? From whom? (Note this may not be easy to do. It is worth it)
  • Are they useful now?

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How do you know you are dreaming?

At night, when you are asleep, how do you know you are dreaming?

Unless, you have learned to dream lucidly, you don’t know you are dreaming, until you wake up!

Why am I asking this question?

Most of the thought patterns you follow during each day are automatic, they play out just like a dream, you are in them, following them,  but not aware of what they are (that’s how the brain works, it stores patterns to ‘help’ you, by not having to pay conscious attention to every single little thing, that it is faced with, moment to moment). Trouble is, some of the patterns you learned earlier in your journey are not always helpful, in this situation right here, right now, (some are of course)  and that’s why you need to wake up sometimes, to what  your thought patterns are and where they are ‘taking you’.

Ask what are my thoughts about this?

What is my thinking here?

You may think you are fully awake, you’re not, you’re following thought patterns.

You need to observe those thoughts, be aware of them

You need to really wake up, so that, as you become more aware of your thinking in any given context, you choose to change that thinking to something that is more resourceful, something more helpful. You respond to the situation, see The Journey.

How many times today did you react to something happening, to someone saying something?

How many times today did you respond to something happening, to someone saying something?

I will discuss Responding vs Reacting  in a future Post in the BLOG