As I watched a young Mum communicating with her daughter this morning an insight appeared.
An insight around communication: When we communicate, 2 quantities (at least) are exchanged.
- 1. A quantity of Information
- 2. A quantity of Energy
We know in this world a huge amount about quantities of Information we exchange.
Not so much about the quantities of Energy.
As I watched this young girl and her Mum I began to think about language and how we learn / acquire it.
How do we learn for instance the word ‘Bad’ is bad? We could just as easily teach children the word ‘Good’ is bad. Or give meaning to the words right and wrong?
How?
What the young girl and all of us are hyper aware of is Energy.
For me, the Energy is transmitted faster than the information and is received by us first.
We resonate with this Energy and use it to frame the information that follows. When the Energy given off by the communicator is positive / loving as it was with Mum this morning, the young girl (using mirror Neurons?) creates an internal state of safety, being loved and associates that internal energy state with the information being exchanged.
Primarily Humans communicate by Exchange of Energy. Information is secondary.
The Energy exchange will prime our brain about how to work with the information that follows, thus:
If the Energy received is calm, caring, loving, positive then we mirror that state (safe) and associate with the following information exchanged, in a calm, caring, loving, positive way.
If the Energy received is agitated, annoyed, angry, threatening, forcing, dominating etc. then we mirror that state and trigger a threat state within us (unsafe) and the information is received in a Fight / Flight / Freeze mode.
When we communicate with animals it is the Energy that the dog, cat, horse, whatever, mirrors and uses to create the internal state within them.
So when we learn the word ‘bad’ what we associate it with is the Energy transmitted, and make it mean unsafe, away from state and by the way then generate that Energy, when we communicate the word ‘bad’.
When we learn the word ‘good’ what we associate it with is the Energy transmitted, and make it mean safe, towards state.
I have just invented this word, Janjijanji. Is it a good word or a bad word? You won’t know until you receive my Energy when I say it to you.
Remember Emotion, E-Motion = Energy in Motion
Also Human Conductivity (the quality of connection between us) is created by the Energy exchange between us.
Human communication the effective sharing of information between us is directly dependant on the Energy transmitted and received. The Energy is received first.
The Energy we transmit is a function of the level of consciousness we are operating at.
We have developed into the Information Age, we now must grow into the Human Energy age and the develop the same levels of understanding of Human Energy as we have of information.
There is a story to be told about this
How aware are you of:
- The ambient Energy in an interaction – meeting?
- The Energy that you are transmitting in varying contexts?
- How you may control that Energy in given situations?