Tag: reality

Always Rising?

There is What Is (reality), always.

There is each of our interpretations of What Is, always.

Are they the same, always?

Do the representations of What Is that we each build, match all others’ representations always?

There was What Was (reality back then), always.

There is each of our interpretations of What Was, always.

Are they the same, always?

Do the representations of What Was that we each build, match all others’ representations always?

What are the reasons we as human beings do not all build the same representations always?

What are the reasons we as human beings connect and align with others, who have built similar representations always?

What is it we each have in common with all others, always?

What is it we each do not have in common with all others, always?

What we each have in common with all others is our brains, always.

What we each do not have in common with all others is what we have learned and ‘stored’ in those brains, always.

We each build our representations of What Is and What Was, using what we have learned by way of beliefs, always.

It is our beliefs that inform us about What Is and What Was, always.

When ours and others’ beliefs align, are in tune, the same, we create inner certainty, feel safe and connect, always.

When ours and others’ beliefs do not align, are not in tune, are not the same, we create inner uncertainty, feel unsafe and threatened, always.

Are we stuck in this paradigm, running in ‘automatic,’ where the brain creates cohesion between belief and reality, always?

Not if we rise in the level of consciousness we operate in, always.

Then we respond to What Is and choose, compassion and love always.

Humanity’s question:

How do we each, rise in our levels of consciousness, always?

How is the ‘Voyage’ progressing?

Sailing is an excellent metaphor for our lives, where the wind and the sea constitute the reality of our lives.

It may be for some of us, we stay close to shore, perhaps even choosing not to venture out of the harbour (yet).

Our ‘yacht’ is the ‘Self’ we created / built. If you like it is the ‘Self’ we learned / we were taught.

We are the sailor in charge of this ‘yacht.’

What starts to become apparent after we leave the harbour and set our course is, the more we respond to the wind and the waves, rather than react and try to ‘force’ our way forward, the more we begin to understand what the ‘yacht’ really needs us to do, in order to follow the course.

For example tacking, because that’s what the conditions demand – we cannot go straight there. What we also begin to realise is: ‘Oh its me, I’m in charge of this ‘yacht’, where it’s going and how well or badly it’s going to navigate there.’

We cannot make demands of the winds and waves to follow our bidding, we can only respond to what is.

This may also trigger us into thinking, perhaps this ‘yacht’ / ‘Self’ could use some design tweaks.

What are those?

How shall I incorporate them?

As we begin to recognise the ‘power’ of responding, we learn to let go of a lot of what we thought was required in life / what we learned.

Then we begin to unlearn and relearn, this time though with an inner wisdom that says all we can control is our attitude and our response.

Thus we learn to be at one with who we are and the fluidity of the life we have.

Life is 10% what happens and 90% how we deal with it.

Show up, connect, respond to what shows up.

As you think about being the one in control of your ‘Yacht.’

  • What are you doing well?
  • How clear are you  on what needs to improve?
  • What’s missing on the voyage?

What is Emotion?

Emotion.
Oxford English Dictionary definition, Noun:- a strong feeling deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others.

Doesn’t really say it for me.
We first encounter emotion as a baby, a toddler, a child.
No-one really taught me anything about emotion, all I can remember is being told, I was a cry-baby and boys should not cry.

It is my belief, that a lot of issues in human life are caused because we do not really understand Emotion.

My definition:-

Emotion – E_Motion (Energy in Motion – Energy being transformed)

Where is it in Motion? Being transformed?

In our bodies.

It is triggered by Sensing.

Sport, Music, Dance, Theatre, Comedy, Sex, Food, Travel, Other People, Cinema, TV, Drinking, Art of all forms, Speed,  Reading, Writing, Poetry, Authoring, Creativity, Dentists, Doctors, Hospitals, Marriage, Divorce, Worship, Spirituality, Faith, Being with others to whom you are ‘connected,’  Birth, Illness, Death, Helping others, Being on Purpose, Collaboration with others, Sharing  and many, many other things are experienced by us, through our Senses.

  • Externally sourced, via these systems :-
  • Visual
  • Auditory
  • Kinaesthetic
  • Olfactory
  • Gustatory
  • Internally sourced :-
  • Conscious awareness of thought (a thought can trigger just as effectively as external sensing)
  • We become aware of the thought(s) generated by that trigger in our
  • As we become aware, we assign meaning to the thoughts (dependant on past experience(s))
  • That meaning then becomes something we label, using language, as a Feeling
  • That meaning becomes the Information which we bring together with the Energy (of the E_Motion) into our Consciousness
  • Now (using Biocentrism) we create Reality (our Individual Reality) when these three things come together
    • Energy, Information and Consciousness.

See (Biocentrism ~ Robert Lanza)             

There is Reality & there is our Representation of it. They are not the same.

Not one Human Being (Scientists included), or for that matter, creature on the planet, ‘knows’ reality i.e. What Is.

Controversial? 😱

What we know, is the representation we have built of it in our mind / body.

We do not react or respond to reality, we react or respond to the representation we have built of it and yes we do have instinctual responses ‘programmed’ within us. (Instinctual behaviour is the inherited ability of an organism to respond to a specific stimulus.)

We do not however live our lives mainly driven by natural instincts.

We LEARN what reality is, we are taught by our own experience, by our parents, by others, by the culture we are raised in, by the language(s) we learn, the beliefs and values we learn, using them to ‘label’ and ‘understand’ reality .

A lot of the learning about reality takes place when we are babies / toddlers / children.

We learn labels, scripts, patterns of thinking, habits,  beliefs, values etc that ‘equip’ us (in a range of useful to not useful) to ‘deal’ with reality.

We then live our lives in a ‘Thought Bubble’ that we create ABOUT reality using those labels, scripts, patterns etc.  Note:- we may learn to ‘hijack / take over’ some instinctive patterns within the ‘Thought Bubble’ and then modify them, for example the FEAR response.  The majority of us are not aware of living in the ‘Thought Bubble,’ and normally never question our thoughts ABOUT reality.

Belief:- an internally held representation of a lens through which we perceive reality. (We have thousands that vary by context) and we learn them all.

We build our representation of reality (Thought Bubble) by way of those learned beliefs (lenses).

Some of those beliefs operate at a level below conscious awareness and are know as cognitive biases e.g. confirmation bias.

There are many, many cognitive biases, just google. https://www.visualcapitalist.com/50-cognitive-biases-in-the-modern-world/

It is NOT seeing is believing, it is BELIEVING is seeing.

You may have heard the quotation “Give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man.” ~Aristotle.

An issue arises:-

> A prime driver for every creature is to survive and thrive.

> A subset of that driver is to keep ourselves SAFE.

> Lack of safety triggers FEAR.

> As a child, our young immature brain learns patterns to minimize the stress caused by fear (feeling unsafe)

The brain learns by repetition, by repeating those thoughts about how to avoid fear. Some beliefs we may form are:-

I’m not good enough – I must please everyone – I need to be perfect etc. then I’ll be safe

These are known as injunctions and drivers

 

> We also learn patterns and scripts as the stimulus (lack of safety), triggers FEAR.

What may happen then is, that FEAR dominates how we live our lives and drives / motivates our thoughts, emotions and behaviours. In this state of course, we are not normally aware that we LEARNED these patterns and scripts, we are just aware that well, this is my life, this is how I am, look at what’s happening to me etc. In fact we develop a VICTIM mentality where of course there is also a ‘Persecutor’ and a ‘Rescuer’ we live our lives as the VICTIM in the Drama Triangle.  Actually, we all play each of the roles  and you may recognise them playing out in your life.

 

Until what?

There is a question I like:-

Is your Mind your Master or are you the Master of your Mind?

When our Mind is our Master we kind of run in ‘automatic mode’ perceiving reality through those learned beliefs / lenses  (within our thought bubble) and mainly reacting to Reality (What Is), following the old scripts and patterns that we learned. You may notice in a Team meeting for example, childhood patterns emerging and playing out, its like being back in the school playground.🤷🤪🤬🤯😒😖😜🤷‍♂️

As I said, some patterns of thoughts and strategies may serve us well. Others perhaps, not so much.

As we learn to become Master of our Mind, its like we operate at a different level of consciousness and are much more likely to think about our thinking / how we are representing ‘things?’ Pausing and choosing how to respond, rather than reacting to the representation of Reality we have built . We recognise also  perhaps a few of those beliefs e.g. “I’m not good enough” that we have learned do not perhaps serve us well and because we are Masters of our Mind, we can choose to  change those beliefs.

  • How are you representing the reality of issues,  problems in your life?
  • What belief might you CHOOSE to Change?
  • How might you reframe the representations of reality you have built?

How do you make decisions? Deep analysis? Or like me, not so much. 😬

On the pathway to you becoming you, many decisions have been made, by others, by you.

Reality does what it does which triggers us to make a decision.

Did you ever consider how we make decisions?

If you are blessed with an analytical brain, then you most likely work with a well practiced process.

If not, then you may find this template useful for some (major?) decisions you and possibly you with others, have to make.

Decision Template