We do not know reality, what we know, is our representation of it. We build a representation in our head by way of the lenses of our beliefs and of course act as if our representation is right, it is the ‘truth.’
Reality of course does what it does, then if that does not match what we have represented in our heads, does not meet our expectations, we stress. The level to which we stress, is directly proportional to the attachment we have to our representation being true.
What we then tend to do is ‘blame,’ we blame others, things, the ‘stuff’ out there.
Is there a different way?
What if, instead of blaming we accepted the reality for what it is? Then deal with it.